Marriage & Divorce Series: Rulings, Conditions & Questions
by Abu humayd Saalim Ahmed
There are slides and sheets available with this talk – Marriage & Divorce Series Handouts
Lesson 1 covered:
- What does Nikaah mean?
- When is marriage Sunnah / Wajib / Mubah / Makruh / Haram?
- Are you allowed to look at the one you propose to?
- What are the conditions for courting?
- When is it forbidden to propose?
- When you are in a state of Ihraam, can you be a witness?
- What is the ruling on the one who delays marriage due to his / her studies?
+ Fatawaa from the scholars relating to marriage
Lesson 2 covered:
- Recap from part 1
- Who should you marry?
- More details regarding courting
- What is the engagement? What is allowed?
- Are there specific times or places where it is best to perform the Nikaah?
- What is the Ijaab?
- What is the dua you should make for the groom and bride?
- What is the dua when you first meet your wife? What should you do?
- What is the ruling on forced marriage?
- What is the difference between a forced and arranged marriage?
- What is the role of the Wali (guardian)?
- Can you get married without a Wali?
- Can the nikaah be done over the phone?
- Who can be a wali?
+ general advice to one who is about to get married.
Lesson 3 covered:
- Recap from part 2
- Conditions of the wali
- Conditions of the guardian
- What is the ruling on the guardian of a woman from Ahlul Kitab
- Conditions of witnesses
- Women eternally forbidden to marry
- What is condemnation (Al Li’aan)
- Women temporarily forbidden to marry
Lesson 4 covered:
- Recap from part 3
- Can you marry your cousins?
- Recap -> What are the conditions of the marriage?
- Difference between conditions of Nikah and conditions within the Nikah.
- What types of conditions is it permissible to set?
- “If you marry me, you can’t take a second wife” – is this a legitimate condition?
- Can you ask for a divorce if your husband takes a second wife?
- What is the dowry?
- Is it a condition to mention the dowry at the time of Nikah?
- If the husband/wife is infertile what happens?
Lesson 5 covered:
- Revision of previous lessons
- What is the Waleemah?
- When should the contract be done?
- Is the Waleemah waajib or Sunnah? What is the proof?
- What is the wisdom behind the waleemah?
- What [food] should be served at the waleemah?
- What are the 5 rights of a Muslim upon a Muslim?
- If you are invited to a waleemah, is it waajib to attend? What about regular invites?
- Can you attend if there is music?
- If you are fasting and invited to a waleemah, should you attend and break or continue fasting? What is the proof?
Living in kindness and goodness with the women
- It is waajib to be kind to ones wife.
- Is the woman expected to cook for her husband?
- A beautiful statement by shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen regarding the dealings between the spouses
- Remember, how would like the husband of your daughter to treat her?
- Women have similar rights over men as men do over women
- What does “goodness” mean in the legislation?
Lesson 6 covered:
- What are the three types of divorce?
- What is a Bid’ee divorce vs a Sunnee divorce?
- What are the rights of the women regarding divorce?
- What are the circumstances when you can request a divorce?
- If a husband mistreats his wife, and refuses to allow her divorce – can he be compelled?
- What is the ruling of the man who beats his wife?
- What is the ruling on one who belittles and demeans his wife verbally?
- What is the ruling on the one who hates women?
- What did ibn Katheer say regarding those who oppress the women?
Lesson 7 covered:
- What are the 5 rulings that apply to divorce?
- When is it allowed for one to seek a divorce?
- It is not permissible for a believing man to hate a believing woman.
- When is it mustahhab / waajib for a man to divorce his wife?
- What are the categories of divorce?
- Can a divorce occur via text message?
- What is the ruling when the wording is indirect?
- What are the differences between major and minor separation
- What is Talaaq bid’ee?
- What is Talaaq Sunnee?
Lesson 8 covered:
The waiting period (the ‘iddah) during the divorce
- What is the waiting period?
- Why is the waiting period prescribed?
- What are the benefits of the waiting period?
- The waiting period is obligatory, whether it’s separation after Talaaq, khula’ & faskh – while the husband is alive or if the husband dies.
- What if the marriage was invalid?
- What if the divorce occurred before seclusion?
- What if she is pregnant?
- What is the waiting period of the widow?
Rulings of the waiting period
- When does the women leave the house?
- Is there a difference between revocable and irrevocable divorcees?
- Should the husband still provide for her?
- Is there a difference between revocable, irrevocable and pregnant divorcees?
- Can she inherit from the husband during this period?
- What are the things which are not allowed?