Marriage & Divorce Series: Rulings, Conditions & Questions

by Abu Humayd Saalim Ahmed

There are slides and sheets available with this talk. Notes are at the bottom of this post.

  • Worksheets
  • Lesson 1
    • What does Nikaah mean?
    • When is marriage Sunnah / Wajib / Mubah / Makruh / Haram?
    • Are you allowed to look at the one you propose to?
    • What are the conditions for courting?
    • When is it forbidden to propose?
    • When you are in a state of Ihraam, can you be a witness?
    • What is the ruling on the one who delays marriage due to his / her studies?
    • + Fatawaa from the scholars relating to marriage
  • Lesson 2
    • Recap from part 1
    • Who should you marry?
    • More details regarding courting
    • What is the engagement? What is allowed?
    • Are there specific times or places where it is best to perform the Nikaah?
    • What is the Ijaab?
    • What is the dua you should make for the groom and bride?
    • What is the dua when you first meet your wife? What should you do?
    • What is the ruling on forced marriage?
    • What is the difference between a forced and arranged marriage?
    • What is the role of the Wali (guardian)?
    • Can you get married without a Wali?
    • Can the nikaah be done over the phone?
    • Who can be a wali?
    • + general advice to one who is about to get married.
  • Lesson 3
    • Recap from part 2
    • Conditions of the wali
    • Conditions of the guardian
    • What is the ruling on the guardian of a woman from Ahlul Kitab
    • Conditions of witnesses
    • Women eternally forbidden to marry
    • What is condemnation (Al Li’aan)
    • Women temporarily forbidden to marry
  • Lesson 4
    • Recap from part 3
    • Can you marry your cousins?
    • Recap -> What are the conditions of the marriage?
    • Difference between conditions of Nikah and conditions within the Nikah.
    • What types of conditions is it permissible to set?
    • “If you marry me, you can’t take a second wife” – is this a legitimate condition?
    • Can you ask for a divorce if your husband takes a second wife?
    • What is the dowry?
    • Is it a condition to mention the dowry at the time of Nikah?
    • If the husband/wife is infertile what happens?
  • Lesson 5
    • Revision of previous lessons
    • The Waleemah
    • What is the Waleemah?
    • When should the contract be done?
    • Is the Waleemah waajib or Sunnah? What is the proof?
    • What is the wisdom behind the waleemah?
    • What [food] should be served at the waleemah?
    • What are the 5 rights of a Muslim upon a Muslim?
    • If you are invited to a waleemah, is it waajib to attend? What about regular invites?
    • Can you attend if there is music?
    • If you are fasting and invited to a waleemah, should you attend and break or continue fasting? What is the proof?
    • Living in kindness and goodness with the women
    • It is waajib to be kind to ones wife.
    • Is the woman expected to cook for her husband?
    • A beautiful statement by shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen regarding the dealings between the spouses
    • Remember, how would like the husband of your daughter to treat her?
    • Women have similar rights over men as men do over women
    • What does “goodness” mean in the legislation?
  • Lesson 6
    • What are the three types of divorce?
    • What is a Bid’ee divorce vs a Sunnee divorce?
    • What are the rights of the women regarding divorce?
    • What are the circumstances when you can request a divorce?
    • If a husband mistreats his wife, and refuses to allow her divorce – can he be compelled?
    • What is the ruling of the man who beats his wife?
    • What is the ruling on one who belittles and demeans his wife verbally?
    • What is the ruling on the one who hates women?
    • What did ibn Katheer say regarding those who oppress the women?
  • Lesson 7
    • What are the 5 rulings that apply to divorce?
    • When is it allowed for one to seek a divorce?
    • It is not permissible for a believing man to hate a believing woman.
    • When is it mustahhab / waajib for a man to divorce his wife?
    • What are the categories of divorce?
    • Can a divorce occur via text message?
    • What is the ruling when the wording is indirect?
    • What are the differences between major and minor separation
    • What is Talaaq bid’ee?
    • What is Talaaq Sunnee?
  • Lesson 8
    • The waiting period (the ‘iddah) during the divorce
    • The Divorce
    • What is the waiting period?
    • Why is the waiting period prescribed?
    • What are the benefits of the waiting period?
    • The waiting period is obligatory, whether it’s separation after Talaaq, khula’ and faskh – while the husband is alive or if the husband dies.
    • What if the marriage was invalid?
    • What if the divorce occurred before seclusion?
    • What if she is pregnant?
    • What is the waiting period of the widow?
    • Rulings of the waiting period
    • When does the women leave the house?
    • Is there a difference between revocable and irrevocable divorcees?
    • Should the husband still provide for her?
    • Is there a difference between revocable, irrevocable and pregnant divorcees?
    • Can she inherit from the husband during this period?
    • What are the things which are not allowed?